Adjusting to College Life
Nearly all first-year college students encounter a few surprises as they adjust to college life. Understanding the most common challenges students report and what to do about them can make the transition to college life go more smoothly for both students and their parents. Some of the most reported issues include:
Academics. Even strong students can be blindsided by college academics. Classes, even in subjects you’ve always aced, are often more demanding than high school classes and may require new skills and approaches. Unlike high school teachers, college professors won’t check that you’re keeping up with the workload. How to cope: The course syllabus is your best friend; before each class, make sure you’ve completed the reading for that day. Don’t skip classes! If you’re struggling with the coursework, get help earlier, rather than later. Connect with peers to form study groups. For parents: If your child seems to be struggling, suggest they talk to the professor during office hours or reach out via email to set up an appointment. The college’s tutoring and writing centers can also help students adjust to college academic demands.
Time management. In college, how you spend your time is up to you. That sounds great, until you realize just how hard it can be to balance studying, socializing, and juggling new responsibilities like a job or doing your own laundry. How to cope: Your first three priorities should always be attending classes, studying, and taking care of your physical and mental health (sleeping, eating, exercising, connecting with others). Get a personal planner and block out time to study. Though socializing is a big part of college life, know your limits. For parents: While your child will likely make some mistakes with time management, set clear expectations with your child before they leave for college.
New people. Most students look forward to meeting new people in college. New friends may have different ideas about behavior and relationships from your family and friends back home. Rooming with a stranger can also be a challenge. How to cope: The first few weeks of college are usually a social whirlwind. Don’t stress if you feel you haven’t made the same type of friendships that you had at home. Strong friendships need time to develop. Roommates don’t always end up being best friends; try to discuss any issues that crop up with your roommate as soon as possible. Getting involved on campus is a great way to meet new people, especially at bigger schools where it can be harder to make connections in large lecture classes. For parents: Before your child leaves for college, encourage them to join clubs and hang out in public spaces on campus to meet fellow students.
Homesickness. No matter how excited you are about college, it’s normal to have moments where you miss home, your family, or your friends. Adjusting to a new environment and being surrounded by new people can feel overwhelming at times. How to handle it: When homesickness hits, don’t panic. A phone call to family or friends can help, as can talking to others in your dorm or classes. For parents: Homesickness usually passes quickly. The best way to help is to be there to listen and suggest ways that your child can connect with others on campus.
